Thursday, January 7th, 2010
big trouble
uuggh… ok, so jackson has been sick for the past week. sick like we have never (thankfully) experienced before. he had the croup and on one particular night i even thought i should take him to the ER because it had gotten so bad. i stayed up the entire night with the lights on just watching my child breathe and counting his respirations to make sure they were not too fast and that his lip were not turning blue. anyway, now he is on the mend physically, but mentally and emotionally he would like to still be sick. basically what i’m saying is that he still thinks i am suppose to hold him during naps and sleep with him at night. for nap time, like always, we sit on our rocker and i squeeze him onto my enormous belly and we rock. usually his eyes become heavy and I easily transition him from my lap to his crib while he’s awake, but just before his eyes close, and he nods off to sleep NO PROBLEM! not so much today. every time i even began to stop he would pop up and say “NO MAMA.” well, big mama can do that for a while, but then i have to pee. not like, ok bladder, i’ll go in just a few minutes, but like if you don’t go and pee now you’re going to wish they made pampers in your size kinda pee. so, i gently place him in his crib and he immediately begins to scream and say, “NO MAMA… CHAIR. PLEASE!” oh, just break my heart now. to this day, it still completely crushes me to hear my child scream. STILL! and we have had plenty of practice in the screaming department. hearing him scream just sets me off. it will turn my good day into a bad one. isn’t that horrible. i feel so guilty for letting him cry it out, but in just a few short weeks when reality serves him a big helping of “you are not the only child anymore” i don’t know what else to do. how in the world am i going to manage two babies screaming? question #1: is it acceptable to cry with them? question #2: will you pray for me? because acceptable or not, i’m sure i will be crying with them. in 4 weeks or less, i’m relatively certain i’m in for big TROUBLE.
January 7th, 2010 at 3:38 pm
lacey frizzell said:
Kelly,
It is rough at first but, he will eventually figure out that regardless of his screaming you have to take care of him and the new baby. I will be there for you through the bad days and good. A word of advice adjust Jacksons schedule around the new baby and get them both napping at the same time. It took me a good 3 months to get this down but, I figured it out and love my quite time. You have been a great mom to Jackson and having another baby will make you a better mom to Jackson and the new baby. So excited to meet the ……………(I would put a name here but, bro doesn’t have a name yet lol).
January 7th, 2010 at 6:10 pm
Melanie said:
Yes, it is totally okay to cry with them. You need to give yourself more credit. You are a fabulous mommy to one happy little boy and you will be a fabulous mommy to 2 happy little boys. Everyone has bad days, I know I sure do. Your boys are lucky to have a mommy like you!
January 7th, 2010 at 11:46 pm
kendra said:
Kelly you are such a wonderful mommy. Believe me there were days that I cried with my kids! Sometimes all of you will just need to sit in the floor and cry together for a little while, then you and the kids will feel better! Everyone has bad days and good days. You will most definately have them when the new baby comes but the good days outweigh the bad and the good make the bad totally worth it. Hang in there!
January 8th, 2010 at 10:44 am
Claudia Dalton said:
Answer # 1:
of course it’s OK to cry with them, or leave them crying in their room and you go to your own. :0)
I’ve done that with Nicolas plenty of times, believe me. They will be fine crying it out and it works well for mommies too.
Answer # 2;
Most definitely I’ll be praying, we know we all need it, specially with two children.
Remember, children know how to manipulate, even if they don’t do it on purpose they know where to push and how and when … and of course we fall for it but at some point you need to show them who’s in charge. He will be just fine pitching a fit, or two or three, until he understands that life has changed.
I love you!!
January 14th, 2010 at 3:04 pm
Maw Maw Gail said:
I’m glad Jackson is doing better. Lisa told me he had been sick. I am looking forward to the birth of No. 2. Is he still going to be named Mason? I think that is a pretty name. Hope all goes well for all of you. Sounds like you had a great party. We love you all.
January 16th, 2010 at 3:24 pm
Kelly B. said:
Well, I don’t have any mommy advice. But I do know it is ok for them to scream and cry and I don’t see any problem with you joining in. It might distract them from their problems…you never know.
I will be praying for you, and all the other new moms and the moms that will be doubling their load.
Let me know if I can come hold a baby while you clean again. I know how much you like to clean!